I’ve heard of men who met women on dating sites, and have always wondered, “will I get that chance, too?” Six months ago, I did. And my experience was a mish-mash of highs and lows. The high point, was of course, finally meeting my girlfriend Mela, who is set to come over for a visit next spring. But before I got to that high point, I had to go through a lot of challenges on the Indonesiancupid dating site (from women asking for money to men pretending to be women and posting model photos). Here’s a short review of my experience. I hope this helps you decide whether to spend more time and money on the site.

I joined the Indonesian Cupid dating site as a free member, and all was good for a month or so. Messaging features (instant messenger features) are available with a free membership, and viewing profiles was allowed. Browsing members is also free, and I had fun just looking for a month. That’s when I started taking my profile seriously. At first, I was content with uploading very few photos. Profile creation was easy, and the pages are not difficult to navigate once you get the hang of it.

But things got dicey when I found several girls I was interested in. They all want different things. One wanted to view my cam to make sure I was who I said I was. One wanted more photos to make sure I’m a real person and that I looked like my profile pic. And, the girl I finally picked to be my girlfriend was not always available for chatting so I had to find a way to send emails she can receive the next time she logged in.

So, I went and paid the $100 per year membership (annual). I figured the rate was lower when the membership was for longer, but I ended up taking my new girlfriend seriously before my “time” on the site as a paid member was up. I should have signed up for the $30 a month membership, but what can I do? At least, I got a girlfriend in the process, which is more than what I could say for some of those who are still looking.